Life changes. Weathers change. And so do the winds of time. Just like winds changing the patters on sand…perhaps time has the same effect on wounds of hurt heart….
And just as everyone has different tolerance level to take in pain, so does he have different forbearance to let go of it…..it all depends on the grip one has on pain; and how dearly he holds onto it, mistaking PAIN for LIFE……holding onto it….as if it’s the only source of survival. No one can assess how humongous is the pain, pressure and mental torture for them. No one knows how silently the pain oozes through their bleeding hidden emotions.
Fear is a part of life. It is part of the range of feelings that humans experience on a daily basis. In our culture, fear has come to be experienced as negative. However, the truth is that panic/ fright/fear is a perfectly normal feeling to experience and we would all feel a lot better if we simply allowed ourselves to feel it fully. If we do not we will have somatic symptoms of fear that are much more painful than simply allowing the feeling to be felt.
Fear is the sweat dripping down your face as you walk along through the woods or swarm streets. Fear is the anxiety of waiting for your report card, so you can grab it first rather than your parents. Fear is all the sharks swimming freely in the ocean while you are scuba diving. Fear is "a feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the existence or presence of danger." A disturbance when danger is around or when you experience jeopardy, you yourself are worried for your well-being and comfort. Fear is a negative emotional state of mind. A state or condition marked by this feeling, says that it is the stipulation that you are in or that you think of when you are scared.
You could experience fear when someone frightens you and they bombshell you and you jump in bewilderment. Some people will say that you made their heart stop or something of the sort from being so surprised. Some people scream as loud as possible and quiver. Also some people are so scared that they just stand there like they are frozen. Some people may pass out like in the movies, but that probably doesn't happen often. People who are easily frightened are categorized as "scary cats." I believe it's because cats are also easily frightened.
Fear is an emotion produced by the brain to avoid a potentially bad situation or anxiety caused by the presence of danger. Fear caused by a threatening object or situation will typically result in increased body tension, heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate. These symptoms tend to produce different behavioral patterns in people. The ways these symptoms affect me are when I am in danger of failing or when I am alone. These two things are what you could call my two greatest fears. Winston Churchill once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” This famous saying shows that fear affects people as much as they let it affect them. Many people have a fear of failure and it affects them in various ways.
My fear of failure, in a way, has helped me through a lot of my problems. I have recognized this fear that I experience and the only way to prevent this feeling is to do everything I can to accomplish what I need to do. My way of coping with failure is really easy; I just work hard enough to do well. This technique I use helps me from experiencing my fear of failure. My fear of being alone doesn’t exist when I am alone in a dark place, but it does exist when I am in new surroundings. I hate the feeling of not having someone there to talk to or laugh with. When I sense this feeling coming, I deal with it by adapting and trying my best to make new friends. Through my experience, I have found that Churchill’s saying is true. Fear only goes as far as you let it go. You have two options for coping with your fear: you can avoid the fear or you can overcome it. If you learn to face your fears without letting them get to you, there is nothing that will scare you away from achieving your dreams.
They say, “All wounds heal with time….just that some leave scars and some leave scary reminiscences”. But all these condolences and empathy fall short in front of the strong whirlwind of emotions of the satanic heart. The gigantic emotional vacuum of strong devilish pessimism tends to engulf any miniscule trace of optimism….dragging one to deepest fathoms of dark and scary cynicism….People fear change because it pushes them out of their comfort zone. One of the greatest fears in the world is the fear of the unknown. Although fear can create a large amount of energy in a person, you can choose to use that energy in a positive manner and take control of the situation. Focus on your convictions; be confident in your abilities and be proud of the work that you do. Do not allow insecurities to damage your focus. Only you can set your moral compass.
Believe me the creepy thought of “I am nothing….I am non-existent”, is a mammoth threat to any individual’s survival. Make an effort to see change as an opportunity to grow in a different direction and develop new strengths and insights regardless of external influences.
Although it is easier to react negatively and feel inadequate and to listen to negative comments from others, you have the power to change your perspective and so will your attitude change. Your new attitude will become contagious and you will have a positive influence on those around you…
Just saying “LET GO” doesn’t help…..unless one is really convinced that he/she wants to and learns to stop holding onto the PAIN and count on something more fruitful, promising and worthwhile…..
This doesn’t mean he/she starts believing and loving again…..it doesn’t even mean that he/she starts trusting others again and acknowledging the need of trust or love and LIFE again…..That’s because counting or trying to confide one’s innermost feelings seems to be the biggest hitch, because then one starts looking at every second person as a harmful and detrimental person….Ironical….isn’t it…?
It just means that he/she firstly learns how to forgive and love his/her own self…..like a mother caressing her child awoken screamingly from a nightmare….”It’s OK, it was just a bad dream, see I am here, no one will hurt you…..shhhhh……I am here, beside you…..everything will be ALL RIGHT…..I love you, you know that….I won’t let anyone harm you…..I am here….try sleep again…”
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